A better cage

That last post was a bit of a downer I guess. and thanks to the commenter, so sorry it took me like a month or two to publish it.

Business has been quite good lately and I find myself far to busy to spend time typing in here, although I still do a fair amount of reading and fantasizing of course. Wondering if Sarah will ever change.

Actually to be honest just lately Sarah has been making more of a effort, not in being a femdom or anything but just allowing a greater intimacy. This will probably sound a bit pathetic to some but Sarah actually seems to like it when I relieve myself while spooning her and giving her a massage, but the gift of her orgasms still are way too infrequent. Just lately Sarah has agreed to doll out my orgasms, and although she does not really give me any lists or tasks to earn them, she does make me massage her an awful lot. Sarah now refers to the CB6000 as "that horrible thing" and to be fair after more than 2 years of life its definitely at the ned of its service life, if i could be bothered i would take a picture, although its clamped on my cock right now as I still wear it work most days, but take it off when i get home. it is in a sorry state alright, it cracked open over a year ago and needed super gluing back together, which means its not quite clear any more, also the seam has dark crap in there that you can't get out, not to mention the cable tie I put around it as added security against further splits. I have a wad of putty on the top that stops the lock from banging. All in all a very yucky device and not very intimate, and I can't say I blame her

Anyway I told Sarah I want a new and non tacky one for my birthday, she was pretending to be too asleep to answer but at least she did not say no. I am actually thinking about the steelheart since thumper raves on about it all the time. Plus since business is going quite well, the money is not really a issue as it would have been a year ago. But I see two major problems with it.

One is security and I don't want to get a a PA piercing, more because I hate the idea of permanently having to watch out where my pee goes when I pee, and also because it would certainly freak Sarah out. The other concern I have is hygiene, I don't know how you would keep that one clean, and how it does not stink when one takes it off, which is also a intimacy killer for spontaneous interludes (if when they happen). At least with the CB6000 I can keep whats inside clean so that one can barely whiff anything when its removed, but its taken 4 years to get to a point when I can do this relatively easily and effectively.

For the security I was thinking about getting the fixing with internal penis plug

http://steelworxx.de/Fixing-with-integrated-Penis-Plug-42p.html

The cool thing about this is that it holds everything in place, and while one could almost certainly pull your cock out of the tube still, getting it back in would be impossible without the key....this is not true for the CB6000 even though the KSD makes it very hard to get off, getting it back on is actually easier than getting it off with the help of a stocking. Clearly using the penis plug fitting this would not be possible, and trying to stuff your cock back in through that loop while its still inside the tube be nigh impossible.

The main thing that I have concern about with the penis plug is the long term viability of having shoved in your pee hole, and how its going to feel during an attempted erection...I know i probably do not have so many readers these days but I am wondering if there are anyone with experiences with this thing?

I have also written to Steelworx and asked them if I could modify the steelheart 2 a little bit. I want to make the opening at the front a little bigger so I can use my paintbrush trick to get soap up in there....and also if its possible to drill or perforate the tube on the sides (not on the top for aesthetic reasons, or the bottom for smoothness reasons)with LOTS of tiny 1mm holes, so the tube can both breath...and so that one can direct a stream of water onto the holes and flash the tube out. I do not see the point in having large vents when if you had only small holes but lots of them so that you can pass water through but skin won't come bulging out during a erection. From a construction point of view it might be hard anyway will wait and see if its possible.

I also asked if it might be possible to have a adjustable foot that resembles a KSDG2 on a thread , where the height of such can be adjusted while the device is unlocked but not tampered with when locked, I have not physically seen a device so I am not sure if this will be possible or not, but it would be great to effectively change the size of the hole where the shaft goes into the tube which would enhance security particularly if the penis plug is not tolerable over a long period....I somehow doubt they will be interested in that idea but it does not hurt to ask.

I will let u know how I go...and if in the end being in metal really does have the claimed improvement in intimacy appeal....

Not dead just buried.

Another dead blog, or someone that just has lost interest?
No that is not really true, but per my last post its very hard to waste time now that my world has become so time challenged. Yes starting a business is not a short term commitment but rather a commitment that moves from months to years very quickly. Fortunately despite the economic climate so far at least touch wood it is feeding our family and we might even get a holiday soon.
I have not stoped stealing some time to keep up with the latest news and my fetish with regards to chastity remain, in fact I am wearing the CB6000 now, but its not Sarah that is holding key, I actually wear it during the day quite a lot just because I find it helps me stay focused, and keeps my hands off it, although I find wearing it also intensifies other feelings at the same time.

Another reason I think is that there are so many other writers out there that are so much more prolific, and graphic than I can be or have time for, and have a far greater skill than I have both in their writing ability and also their relationship with their spouse is a lot closer, or at least willing to play along. I like to read Thumper a lot, I think he is clearly the new king of the chastity blogs, its amazing how similar initially he was in the beginning to how Sarah and I are, but with a difference his bell actually HAS a libido whereas Sarah simply does not, well at least not as far as I am concerned.
I guess to be fair to Sarah she has a lot on her plate, although she does not work we do have 4 children to consider, and they are not without constant tribulations, one of which is finalising his schooling this year and is as stressed as a poor child can be.
Sarah has no interest, assigns no priority to us as a couple and any attempt to engage in any discussion that has anything to do with sex, penis cages, chasity, femdom, orgasm denial, basically anything to do with intimacy between us is met with complete dis interest, like there are far greater priorities in life than intimacy.
The strange thing is I “get that” but I also get very frustrated that she won’t even give up one tiny bit of her consciousness for US…or ok…well for me…but in my mind it is us.
We did venture into her holding the keys to my cage 2 or three months ago….where I left them on her bedside table telling her that when ever they are there when I get home from work (I told her I liked to wear it to work)I would take it off when I got home, and if they were not there I would know she was looking for a massage….with no strings attached, the keys did go away, but it was a short term thing because 5 days later she let me out and announced we should get rid of it, because there was no point to it because she never actually wanted to let me out……..ever.
Now that sounds really kinky and on first though conjures thoughts of strap on harnesses while still cages or giving Sarah oral sex while I am locked up for life, whatever. But what this actually means in sarah speak is that she never feels like intimacy, she never FEELS like letting me out, ie she never gets horny, Sarah also seems to have a thing about owing people anything, After spending a week rubbing her back and doing things for her, she feels like she OWES me a release, I have to admit I agree with her!!! But we all know femdoms HATE feeling that they owe anyone anything.
The problem from my mind space is that femdom is all well and good and so is orgasm denial but at the end of the day there has to be some completion, some kind of acknowledgment even if acknowledgment is a substitute for reward, Sarah gives neither, and so I am afraid to say we have settled back into the old routine where I leave her alone for a week, (apart from the occasional back rub and also let her know I am horny in the faint hope she feels sorry for me…which even if I ask her she says no…she has no sympathy….then after about a week or so I start harassing her for sex until she gives in.
The stupid things is I HATE harassing her for sex, but after a week or so I start to feel driven, its not really sex I am after though its passion, its intimacy because I cam make myself cum 5-6 times a day until it gets sore if I want to but the drive for intimacy is different and for deeper and stronger, and depressing when its not returned.
I am still here, still breathing, still at least thinking about Sarah being in control of our sex life, but getting Sarah to be in control is as hard as getting her to like sex. You can’t MAKE anyone do anything, she is what she is, I guess I either have to accept it or leave her, I can’t make myself into something I am not either, tried that, just ended up depressing myself, although I must admit I am tempted to try it again, my libido is driving my crazy at the moment, waking up with a rock hard cock in the morning every friggin morning…so hard it hurts….at least the cage wakes me before it gets to the super rockon phase so I can normally head it off…..:(